family


That seems like a question I ask myself often enough.  I’ve got a lot of plans, things to do, places to see, people to meet, blogs to write.  And then I have reality.  Work life flows into home life (especially with my job in IT where I have a Blackberry which means getting calls and e-mails at odd hours).  Balance can quickly turn into imbalance and one might just end up looking back and wondering how all those dreams and goals got relegated to the back of the closet.

So, I’m working on learning and implementing a new time management system and using my Microsoft Outlook a bit more efficiently in conjunction with my blackberry.

I’m keeping it simple.  The 4-d’s

  1. If it isn’t important, delete it.
  2. If it can be done in 2 minutes or less, do it.
  3. If it isn’t for you or if you can, delegate it.
  4. If you need to do it, but it takes longer than 2 minutes (including reading), defer it.

There’s a pretty good article on Microsoft’s website here that talks about taking control of the inbox.

But, more important than what is in the article – part of organizing that to-do list should really get down to priorities.  It may seem silly to schedule time in my calendar with things like “Call wife and tell her I love her” – but really, is there anything more important?  There will always be more things to do than time to do them in, it’s just a matter or remembering those priorities about what is most important in my life and doing those things first.

Spent the weekend camping with the family.  Relaxing and challenging at the same time as we had our a 9 month old and a 4 year old.  Ah, the great outdoors!

Well, at least it wasn’t really camping – it was car camping, which means schlep all your gear up to the campsite and unload the portable stove, tents and bikes and spend the weekend enjoying the fresh air.  Here’s an aerial view of the campsite and as you can see we’ve got plenty of neighbors.

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The trek was about 4 hours and we left around noon – perfect timing as the drool machine was busy napping in his car seat.

Every camping trip is a learning experience and this trip, I learned that having extra space to pack things is great.  We purchased the Sherpak Go! 15 Roof Bag for the trip, and what a difference it made.  With the extra space I didn’t have to break out the Tetris skills of packing and we were able to take along our chariot bike trailer to tow the kids around as we visited our friend’s campsites.

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My wife and I also purchased bikes for the trip.  I got a Marin Bobcat, and she got a Marin as well, but hers was more geared towards the street ride, and even had a little shock absorber in the seat post.

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There used to be a time when I went camping by tossing a backpack full of clothes and an external frame backpack with a sleeping bag strapped to it into the trunk of my car and headed for the wilderness.  Welcome to family life! 

 

All I can say about last month is that I’m glad I got through it… some of my highlights included:

1. My laptop computer has been on it’s last legs for a while… it’s an HP pavilion workhorse (nx9000 series) -17 inch monitor, big hard drive, fast cpu, lots of memory, and about 4 years old with a fan that was in hyper drive and enough heat generated to warm a small room to a comfortable temp.  A year ago lines started to show up in the display.  Every month a few more vertical lines would appear.  The nvidia video driver kept freezing the operating system about 6 months ago, so I had to use the generic windows video card driver – which meant no cool video games for me.  Finally, it looks like the video card has given up the ghost.  No video on the LCD, no video on the external monitor.  So this week I finally did the research and bought a new laptop computer and have spend the week restoring backups and reloading all my applications on the Windows Vista64 operating system.

2. Chickens are evil to gardens.  I wasn’t thinking about it and planted my new seedlings that I have been growing indoors.  I went to work for a day, came back with the chickens having made a tasty meal of my little plants.  I now have chicken wire hoops around the remaining plants and am trying to figure out if there is a cheap way to energize it with solar electricity to keep them away from my poor plants.  I will also be building a chicken run.  No more free range for these little chickens until my garden gets a bit more mature.

3. Installing fiberglass insulation under the kitchen.  I live in a tri-level house.  This means there is a crawlspace under the kitchen and great room.  I have always wanted to put insulation in there to keep the tile on the kitchen floor from being ice-cold in the morning.  This month I finally did it.  As it is summer, I haven’t noticed if the kitchen tiles are colder than they used to be.  I probably should have done the geek thing and taken temperature reading of before and after.

4. Dealing with a 5 month old.  This is the age of flipping around, scooting across the floor, drool like Niagara Falls, and waking up at all hours of the night – My wife has been an angel dealing with him, but where I used to sleep through anything short of a nuclear blast – I’m starting to wake up early in the morning and taking him for an hour before I go to work so she can sleep in.  To top it off, last night my 4 year old daughter got into our bed and about 2am pushed me off the mattress…All the books say just take her back to her room, which I did.  She immediately came to “full alert”, and ran back to our bedroom.  Tired as I was, I just went and slept in the guest room.  Just didn’t have the energy to fight the epic battle of “sleep in your room”

As for the fan I keep promising to install in my daughter’s bedroom…yeah, still in the box.  Maybe tonight…after I organize the garage and finish installing the insulation under the great room, assuming she doesn’t fall asleep in her room that is.

As 2008 approaches, it’s time to brush off those new year’s resolutions.

Mine are pretty standard

  1. Exercise the Body
  2. Exercise the Mind
  3. Keep the financial house in order
  4. Be the family guy

Towards that end, I’m doing several things in 2008.

  • Body: The first is that I’m Tivo’ing the show “Biggest Loser”, and will be joining their Million Pound Match-up.  I’m hoping to stay inspired as I strive to get rid of those 25 pounds that have crept up since my college days.
  • Mind: SharpBrains is a good place to start.  So is reading a book, playing word games and filling out crossword puzzles.  My daughter got a microscope for Christmas (yes, geek-in-training!) and I’m sure I’ll enjoy showing her how to use it and exploring the back yard with her.
  • Finances: Well, I’m pretty good on this front, although things have been a bit touch and go the last 3 months or so.  This year was tough with the paying off of the kitchen appliances, paying the midwife for the birth of my son, and all the other various sundries that go with welcoming a new addition to the family.  I’m planning on tightening the belt (figuratively and literally) as I will be bringing low-cost and healthy meals to work more often instead of going out for high-calorie/high-fat fast food.  I’m also going to work on not being the sucker for my daughter and getting her everything she asks for.  I know I should say no, but I have to admit that getting her a pretty dress and seeing her eyes light up is certainly a lot of fun!
  • Family: It’s not just about kids, it’s about my partner as well.  Somewhere along the way we lost our “date-night” and ended up with me coming home and taking care of the kids while she goes out for a kid-free breather and coffee with her friend (who also happens to have 2 kids of similar age).  Time to start reviving “family game night” and of course “date night”!

So there are the 4 pillars and how I’m going to work this year and next on strengthening them.

Oh, and of course write more in the blogsphere.  I’ve been away and quite preoccupied with the birth of my son and the holidays… time to carve out a bit more time to spend with writing.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all!

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Today is Veterans Day.  It is both a federal and a state holiday honoring those who have served in the armed forces.  My sister served in the Army for several years and all I can say is that these people go though a lot in the pursuit of serving our country.  I don’t think I would make it past boot camp.  That being said, I’m also grateful that she is safely out of the Army as she would probably be in Iraq somewhere today. 

Her MO during her time was as a truck driver and while this may or may not have put her in harm’s way, my prayers go out to all the families who have loved ones in danger  throughout the world.

A big thank you to each and every veteran out there for putting their lives on the line to make our country safe and secure.

This is our second baby. Our first child was in the womb in what is called a footling breech. That means she had one leg up and one leg down. I think this explains why she has gymnastic tendencies and thinks our drapes are a jungle gym. Since she presented this way, we were told that it was pretty much a mandatory C-section. We ended up scheduling the surgery and so we knew pretty much exactly when the baby would be coming.

Today my wife called to say the baby’s head is engaged and dropped. I had to look it up to see what that meant. Here’s the picture…

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That my friends is “launch position“. We were thinking that the baby would be coming around the first week of December. According to the midwife, the blessed event will probably happen before Thanksgiving.

I don’t mind admitting I’m a little freaked out as there is still so much to do to get ready for the new baby. I think tonight will be a busy night… just in case (Although I’m still going out to see the Holmes comet).

Last night my daughter and I went to the hardware store to get some drywall anchors.  Earlier that evening she had been literally swinging from the drapes in the front room and managed to pull one of the curtain rods down on her head.  Daddy was of course watching the football game.  After checking to make sure she was all right and giving her the proper scolding about how the living room was not a jungle gym we set about to repair the damage.

Spackling the holes was about a 30 second job.  Spackle is one of those items that is always handy to have around, whether you are a college student or the parent of a 3 year old, having a can of this wonder paste around the house is a must.

Once the spackle dried and my team was well on its way to winning the game, we headed out to the hardware store for some much needed heavy duty drywall anchors.

There are many places that I try to avoid in Wal-mart and Target because my wife and I are trying to make an attempt at raising a brand-free child.  We have intentionally made a choice to limit the amount of branding and advertising that she is exposed to.  I really didn’t think that I would need to start avoiding certain sections of the hardware store as well.  But last night I realized that even in Man’s Sacred Cave of Wonders, certain aisles are to be avoided at all costs.

I swear my daughter can pick out a Cinderella or Dora character from a mile away, it’s like it’s her secret super-power.  Walking down one of the aisles to the restroom I got hit with a “Wait, Daddy look at that, it’s so beautiful!”  What she was referring to was a package of Disney Princess wall stickers.

There’s a double whammy – Disney princesses and stickers together!  Two things that my daughter absolutely loves.

Then I really started looking around, and I realized that as parents we are subjected to branding from advertisers at every turn.

Colleen Kimmet recently wrote an article about Raising a Brand-Free Kid.  In it she talks about the constant battle we as parents face dealing with marketers.

Parents as sitting ducks

All the parents interviewed said they feel targeted by advertisers, and indeed, the desire to make one’s child happy is a powerful marketing tool.

Verbrugge, who used to work as a consultant on projects related to children’s online activities, says she attended many marketing conferences as part of her job.

“It taught me how sophisticated marketers are in reaching people, and more and more how integrated marketing is in everything we see and do,” she says.

“I think we’re seen as consumers…how much wallet share do kids have, and how much can they influence our spending.”

The article also talks about a book that I am going to have to check out from the local library:

In her book Buy Buy Baby: How Consumer Culture Manipulates Parents and Harms Young Minds, Susan Gregory Thomas explores the widespread and controversial phenomenon of using spokes-characters in advertising to young children.

I thought that this quote was particular poignant:

The retired Grade 1 teacher says he regularly saw different trends and fads sweep through the school, but in his own class and home he tried to encourage individuality.

“While it lines the pockets of large corporations, branding undermines creativity and choices, in a sense,” he says.

“[Diversity] encourages the capacity to create something different.”

But at the end of the day, as the article points out, just like living organically, buying from sustainable resources, limiting processed foods and living the values you want and that you want your kids to have, it’s really all about making that conscious choice to do what you believe is best.  And sometimes what’s best leaves you with a sobbing child who may never thank you for making that decision to walk away from the 2 foot tall Disney Princess wall stickers.

USC beat on Notre Dame pretty good, winning 38-0 and covering the spread, so I managed to pick up a point in the Commissioner’s game.  This would end up being my only point for the weekend.

LOSE – Oklahoma only won 17-7, so 10 points didn’t cover the spread.

LOSE – Texas won 31 – 10, so 21 points didn’t cover the spread either.

LOSE – South Carolina outright lost to Vanderbilt, 6 – 17

WIN – But at least Oregon beat Washington 55-34, covering the 13 point spread.

So this week, I’m 1-4, earning 0 points for the parlay picks.

Every year my family has a ”college football pick ‘em”.  Every year, I do horribly.  So, I thought I’d share my lousy picks with everyone…  including my rationale as to why I chose the various teams.  Maybe someone out there can help me with a few pointers.

First up, The Commisioner’s game – the commisioner (aka my cousin) picks one game, each member of the family picks the team that they think will cover the spread.  Whoever get’s this game right gets one point.

USC – that’s an easy pick… despite the bumpy ride getting to ND

And then we do a parlay pick, the more teams you pick, the higher the points you’ll recieve, but all of your picks must win in order to recieve any points.  Pick 3, get 3 – win a point.  Pick 4, get 4 – win 3 points.  Pick 5, get 5 – win 5 points
At the end of the season.  Family member with the most points has bragging rights for the year.

for the parlay points, I went with 4 teams, so hopefully I’ll pick up an additional 3 points on top of the one I win if USC covers the spread in the comissioner’s game

  1. Oklahoma (-28.5) – even though the coach says bowl rankings don’t mean anything right now, he’s going to run up the score pretty good
  2. Texas (-24.5)– I think the stunt last year when the QB did the whole “horns down” thing is going to leave them itching for payback, so Baylor is also going to have the score run up on them…again
  3. South Carolina (-13.5) – Well, ok, they’re also called USC and one of their QB’s is named Smelley.  Just as good a reason as any other.  Besides, I’ll root for them just like I’m rooting for my chickens in the back yard to survive, so if nothing else, I can say it’s for the namesake (yes, I really am raising chickens)
  4. Oregon Ducks (-13) – since I have a father-in-law who is a big fan…they’re going to cover, Dixon has something to prove after last year’s run fell apart.